Frugality:Dating and Money

As one tries to start to embrace the frugal lifestyle, one of the questions that I get is “how can I go out in a date and not look cheap?”. At a glance, it can be hard finding places and activities that won’t hurt your pocket book. A movie and a dinner date can be somewhat expensive. On average, going to the cinema for two in the afternoon will cost you about $19. If you want popcorn and a couple of drinks that would be another $15. Later that night you go out to a restaurant. I’m not talking a five start restaurant-just a regular chain restaurant. That will be a minimum of another $25 dollars. Total=$59.

Now, if you are doing well financially, this wouldn’t be too much of a problem. But remember that if the date goes well, you will probably go out on a second, and maybe a third. Little by little, it will start adding up to a higher cost. If you are starting to pay of your debt, this could really tighten your pocket book and might cause a possible set back with your financial plans. Here are some ideas one should use when dating:

  • Budget. Look at how much you can actually spend when you go out on a date, and make sure you stick to the figure you came up with. I suggest adding a little more than what you think you are going to spend. This will give you some wiggle room for unexpected expenses.
  • Customize your date with her interests. If you know some of the things he/she likes before you go out on a date, make it tailored to her. Maybe he/she likes reading-take her to a book fair. Likes to travel-check to see if there is a cultural festival going on. Think outside the box when planning. Also, make sure to check that pricing is reasonable.
  • Have a dinner at home. We know that eating at home will always be cheaper than eating at a restaurant. Plus, you can show her your culinary skills. If this is a first date, she might not feel comfortable coming over to your home. Tell her to bring a friend over. Just make sure not to burn the food.
  • Discover your city or town. Here at Houston, we have many different festivals going on all the time. Reading your local newspaper will give you great places to go without breaking the bank to do so. My fiancee Crystal and l do this all the time. We get to go to new places, meet interesting people, eat cheep but good food, and best of all the entrance is usually free
  • Know your museums and zoo. If both of you like animals and/or museums, why not go on a date to one of these places? Usually these institutions run specials throughout the week. Learn when they are and take advantage of them.
  • Be honest. At some point, let the person know your financial plans. They don’t need to know the details. Just that at this point in your life you are trying to take control of your finances.

Dating can be awkward at times, specially in the beginning. Money can be a touchy subject to talk about. During the time that you get to know that person, the subject will probably come up. As I mentioned before, be honest with them. If you two are becoming more and more in sync, she will most likely understand your opinion. This does not mean that you should try and convince her that your way of thinking is right. Her opinion about handling money could be way different than yours. Just remember that dating is the time when you get to learn more about a person. Don’t let money get in the way.

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